We all have different ways that we release our frustrations. Some of us take tropical vacations (niiice), some of us work out, some of us have a hobby that takes our mind off of any challenges we might be trying to manage. Some of us use substances, write in a journal, scream out loud, or take long walks. Please list 5 ways that you personally vent and 5 ways you would tell a young person to vent.Originally, Acknowledge Your Feelings and Vent were going to be two separate coping mechanisms. Do you think they should be separate chapters or do you think they should be together? Please give reasons for your answer.
5 ways that I personally vent...
ReplyDelete1. I've recently started walking and exercising which really relieves tension
2. I have a hobby that I love -- scrapbooking. I especially like it because I take all of my stuff and go someplace else to do it -- without kids or husbands!
3. I like to go hang out with my girlfriends...just to have lunch and gossip!
4. When I need to zone out I watch t.v. -- I especially love reality shows.
5. When I need a short break or release, playing solitaire or soduku on my iphone does the trick.
5 ways I would tell a young person to vent
1. I think starting a journel and getting into the habit of writing is a good idea. I've always wished I did that, I just can't seem to get into it.
2. Work out, take kickboxing, or another sport -- a great way to get out that anger or stress
3. Vent to someone older with more experience...if you can't talk to a parent, then maybe an aunt or older cousin. Maybe even a teacher or counselor
4. Do something to make yourself feel good. Get your hair done or your nails, buy a new outfit or just a piece of clothing. It doesn't have to be expensive, just enough to lift your self-esteem and feel good strutting in front of the bully
5. If you have a best friend that you trust, talk to that person and get it out.
I think that the two coping methods should be together because venting helps you work things out in your mind. This can help to acknowledge what you're really feeling about the bullying and the bullies.
5 ways that I personally vent:
ReplyDelete1. I write about my feelings and then go back and read them months or ven years later.
2. I talk to a trusted friend
3. I play golf
4. I read a good book.
5. I pray and have a good spiritual life. Knowing that God is my personal friend helps me when I feel alone.
5 ways I would tell a young person to vent:
1. Keep a journal and write about your feeling.
2. Talk to a trusted friend.
3. Engage in a sport or hobby that you like.
4. Read an interesting book. It can take your mind to great places.
5. Build a good spiritual life. Pray can be a source of strength and makes you confident because you know that God is on your side.
I think that they should be two seperate chapters. Learining to acknowledge your feelings and then accept them takes so much work that it needs to be addressed seperately. How to deal with those feelings including learning constructive ways to vent is an equally complex topic that is deserving of its own time and space.
ReplyDeleteWhat I do to vent is to;
1. Write in my journal
2. Get in the car and talk a drive and talk to myself.
3.Listen to my music as loud as I can.
4. Spend some time alone to reflect.
5. Talk to a very good , understanding friend.
5 Ways I cope myself:
ReplyDelete1. Write about everything I think about.
2. Think about it a lot by myself.
3. Talk about it to others (my sisters or friends).
4. Search some stuff up on the internet/in books if it really bothers me and I want to know more about it.
5. Talk to myself to not make a big deal out of it and then relax with anything I enjoy (movies, books, music, hanging out/going out).
I would recommend anybody to do these things, because the 5 things I've listed are very simple things that anybody can enjoy.
I agree with MoniqueCB on seperating "Acknowledge your feelings" and "Vent" because I also think these are two very important things that takes a person a lot of time to handle.
5 Ways I Vent
ReplyDelete1) I pray and meditate.
2) I call my mother and vent to her or I vent to my best friends who know me best and really understand me (especially those who listen more than talk back). :)
3) I go on a cleaning spree in the house.
4) I go power-walking or running.
5) I read and/or write.
5 Ways One Could Vent
1) Prayer and deep meditation are great ways
to release and reflect.
2) Talking to someone you can trust, who doesn't judge and who really listens is imperative.
3) Exercise (some sort of physical activity) is a great way to release frustration and take care of yourself.
4) Writing is good for the soul (you may find a new hobby and/or a hidden gift).
5) Watch a movie (or two or three) that will make you laugh your head off.
I believe you vent in the process of acknowledging your feelings, which is why the two belong in the same chapter. Part of the venting process includes expressing your feelings to others or using other methods of taking your mind off of what upset you. However when you choose to vent, true feelings come to surface at some point, which is when the acknowlwdgement takes place.
I actually agree with NishiNK comments and I tend to do all of the same things myself.
ReplyDeleteA few other suggestions
Pray
Exercise
Laugh
Do something nice for myself
Do something nice for others
And I also would separate the two chapters as well.
Five ways I vent:
ReplyDelete1. Pray/talk to God.
2. Listen to music..there is a genre of music or a song that can sooth anything.
3. Read
4. Confide in someone
5. Shop
Five ways I would tell a young person to vent:
1. Talk to someone..it always helps to unload.
2. Get busy..once you've talked it out, get busy doing something physically that you like so you don't dwell on negative thoughts. (sports, working out, start a project, work on a hobby or start a new one).
3. Write..writing thoughts and feelings in a journal helps to put things into perspective and move on. Once you've written it down, read it and dealt with it on some level, you can always destroy it if you fear that someone will read thoughts you don't want to share.
4. Volunteer...helping others ALWAYS takes your mind off of your own problems, and makes you grateful for everything wonderful about your life.
5. Learn something new..read about a different culture, read the biography of someone you don't know about, explore a new genre of music; expanding your knowledge enriches your life and makes you feel better about yourself.
Acknowledging feelings and venting should be kept separate, because there is so much work that goes into the first part. It takes a lot of personal growth to acknowledge then actually accept your feelings. Many times we are in denial about feelings, because we are hurt and/or ashamed about how someone/something has made us feel. Once we do this and deal with those feelings, learning to vent in a way that is non destructive to ourselves and our relationships is a whole new challenge.
5 ways I vent
ReplyDelete1. Talk to my aunt she always gives great advice
2. Write in my journal
3. Listen to music that is uplifting
4. Pray
5. Walk
5 ways I would tell a young person to vent
1. Always have talk to someone you can confide in
2. Write in a journal to express your feelings
3. Find a hobby
4. Pray
5. go for a walk or a bike ride
Acknowledge your feelings and vent coping mechanisms should be kept together because, when you vent you are acknowledging your feelings
5 Ways I Vent
ReplyDelete1. Talking to friends
2. Writing in journal
3. Aerobics
4. Reading - especially self help
5. Praying
5 Ways for a young person to vent
1. Find a trustworthy friend to talk to.
2. Keep busy - go to a movie, acquire a hobby, go for a walk, listen to music, join a social club
3. Start journaling - write down your thoughts
4. Talk to your parents, if you're comfortable doing so
5. Volunteer - it often helps you feel better about your situation
I feel that the coping mechanisms should be separate for a younger audience. Adults are able to better acknowledge their feelings and vent them, but I don't feel that the youth are still acquiring those skills and learning who they are.
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I think acknowledging your feelings and venting should be two different chapters because gaining the skills to acknowledge feelings and understand that they are NOT you, that they are just how you feel in the moment, is a process. Learning that situations and feelings "come to pass" is critical; otherwise we get stuck in the story and stuck in allowing our past to dictate the future.
ReplyDeleteI vent by (not necessarily in order of importance):
1. bathing
2. talking to friends
3. exercising
4. writing in my journal
5. praying
KimMM
How I vent:
ReplyDelete1) I turn the music up really loud and dance like no one is watching
2) I sing as tears fall from my face
3) I use my punching bag
4) I go for a long walk
5) I write in my journal - not often - but just when I need to get feelings out I cannot express vocally - at least at that time.
I would suggest this to a young person for venting stress:
1) Exercise or participate in a sport on a regular basis
2) Turn the music up really loud and dance like no one is watching
3) Write out what you want to do or say, then vocalize - vocalizing your feelings helps let it out.
4) Go for a long walk
5) Seek advice of an elder - again sometimes vocalizing your feelings helps let it out.
I do think you should separate the chapters. More often than not we have a hard time acknowledging the issue is the first step and more often than not the hardest.
I work out, cry, sing, scream and pray. I even talk to my dog, Atticus Finch. Sometimes the situation requires one of those sometimes all of them. :) Every situation is different, so you have to be creative in the way you get over it.
ReplyDelete- 5 ways that you personally vent-
ReplyDeleteConsuming inadvisable amounts of chocolate
The gym
Crying (and I’ve even cried AT the gym)
Writing down how I feel in that moment, on whatever’s handy, even if it means texting into my phone
Daydreaming – what I wish I had done; what I wish I could do – but in a bad way; and what I can do for next time
-5 ways you would tell a young person to vent-
5 deep breaths (It actually takes a lot of patience. By the third one you’re pretty calm, so you figure you can just skip the last two, but if you continue to breathe deeply, you feel so much better)
Write it down
Yell it out (in private, or even mutely if you have to – silent scream)
Prepare for next time
Tell someone you trust
-Do you think they should be separate chapters or do you think they should be together? Please give reasons for your answer.-
I feel that venting is one way you can acknowledge your feelings – I wouldn’t think venting warrants its own chapter.